Mother-trickster as a saboteur: undermining the father-daughter relationship in the context of family war
The archetype of a mother using trickster strategies (manipulation, intrigue, strategic lying) to deliberately destroy the connection between a father and daughter represents one of the darkest and most socially significant variations of this image. It is no longer the "innocent" trickster of everyday survival, but a trickster-saboteur whose actions are aimed at reformatting family loyalty, monopolizing parental power, and often — settling personal scores under the guise of care. This phenomenon is rooted in psychological, social, and literary traditions, reflecting pathological aspects of family dynamics.
Psychological foundation: triangulation and parental alienation
The behavior of such a mother is based on the clinically described phenomenon of triangulation — involving a child in a marital conflict as a tool of pressure, mediator, or ally. Her tricksterism manifests in the refined or crude art of parental alienation, where one parent systematically forms an unjustified rejection of the other in the child.
Tactics of the mother-trickster in this role:
Strategic misinformation: Distorting the past ("He never wanted you," "He abandoned us"), exaggerating or fabricating the father's misdeeds. She presents herself as the only reliable source of information.
Emotional blackmail: Creating a situation where any positive emotion the daughter has towards the father is interpreted as betrayal of the mother ("I'm here for you, and you defend him?"). The daughter is put before a false choice.
Communication control: Intercepting messages, eavesdropping on conversations, criticizing gifts from the father ("He wants to buy his way out"), creating obstacles for visits (sudden "illnesses" of the daughter on visitation days).
"Innocent" provocation: Asking leading questions ("Don't you think his new girlfriend looks at you strangely?") that plant seeds of doubt and jealousy i ...
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