Family courts are increasingly hearing a strange diagnosis. A child fiercely hates the father, although he never hit, insulted, or forgot birthdays. Where does such hatred come from? Psychologists say it's the Parental Alienation Syndrome. Lawyers whisper: the mother instigated it. Judges frown: prove it. Then an expert assessment for the Parental Alienation Syndrome is ordered. What is this creature, how do they catch it, and can we trust it? Let's dig deeper.

What is Parental Alienation Syndrome

The term was coined by American psychiatrist Richard Gardner in 1985. He noticed that in divorce proceedings, some children without objective reasons begin to hate one of the parents. The child is not just offended; he demonizes the father or mother, attributes unspeakable crimes to them, refuses to meet, rejoices if the parent is sick or suffering.

The cause is systematic processing by the second parent. The mother (rarely the father) instills in the child: "the other parent is an enemy, he is dangerous, he doesn't love you, he wants to kidnap/kill/abandon you." A child, especially under 12, cannot critically evaluate this information. He absorbs it as truth. A false picture of the world is formed.

A key distinction from real abuse: in Parental Alienation Syndrome, there are no facts of abuse. There are no beatings, no threats, no neglect. There is only the instilled fear and hatred. And the main tool of alienation is the second parent, who sets the child up.

Why is an expert assessment for Parental Alienation Syndrome needed

In court, two positions clash. The father says: "the child was brainwashed." The mother says: "he is afraid of the father because he is cruel." Who is right? The judge is not a psychologist. He cannot peek into the child's head. A specialist is needed. The expert assessment for the Parental Alienation Syndrome is designed to answer three questions:

Are there signs of the Parental Alienation Syndrome in the child? If there are, who is the alienating parent (who is setting up)? Is the rejection of the second parent justified (i.e., was he really cruel) or unjustified (i.e., brainwashing)?

Without an expert assessment, the court risks accepting the instilled fear as real and depriving an innocent parent of rights. Or, conversely, not noticing real abuse, deciding it's "just syndrome." The expert assessment is a scalpel that separates these two situations.

How does the expert assessment proceed

The procedure is long, from two weeks to several months. The expert commission usually consists of a child psychologist, psychiatrist, and sometimes a sociologist. They study the case materials, medical records, school characterizations, and correspondence between the parents.

Then comes the work with the child. One-on-one conversations, drawing tests, storytelling by photos. The expert observes how the child reacts to the mention of the alienated parent (the one he hates). Do the pupils dilate? Does the voice rise? Does the child use adult, memorized phrases that he cannot come up with himself ("you are a psychological abuser" in the mouth of an eight-year-old)?

They separately interview both parents. Compare their versions of events, look for contradictions. The expert may conduct a test for the child's suggestibility and critical thinking. In particularly complex cases, they use video recordings of the child's meetings with each parent separately and analyze behavior.

The result is a written conclusion. In it, the experts give an answer: is there the syndrome or not, who is the alienating, and who is the alienated. And most importantly — recommendations to the court: leave the child with the alienated parent, limit communication with the alienating, appoint therapy.

Methods and criteria for diagnosis

There is no universal "detector" for the syndrome. But experts highlight eight classic signs (by Gardner) that are analyzed collectively:

Camouflage defamation: the child constantly curses the alienated parent, invents fairy tales. Weak, exaggerated rational explanations: when asked "why do you not love your dad?", the child answers "he didn't buy ice cream" or "he insulted mom", which is disproportionate to the hatred. Lack of ambivalence: the child either loves the alienating parent or hates the alienated. Phenomenon of an independent thinker: the child swears that no one brainwashed him, he thought of everything himself. And he uses adult, memorized phrases. Automatic support for the alienating parent: in any dispute, the child takes the side of the alienating, even if he is obviously wrong. Lack of guilt for cruelty to the alienated parent: the child may rejoice in his illness or misfortune without a trace of shame. Presence of borrowed scenarios: the child repeats stories he couldn't have seen (for example, "dad hit mom" although he lived in another country at that time). Enmity extends to the family of the alienated parent: the child hates not only the dad but also his parents, sisters, even pets.

If the child has 5 out of 8 signs, the syndrome of parental alienation is likely present. The expert also evaluates the absence of real abuse: checks documents, interviews third parties, studies medical certificates.

Difficulties and criticism of the expert assessment

Parental Alienation Syndrome is not an official diagnosis in international classifications of diseases (ICD-11) and DSM-5. It is included in ICD-11 as "Parental Alienation Syndrome" in the section of factors affecting health, but not as a mental disorder. This is enough to use it in courts, but not enough to prescribe forced treatment.

Critics say the expert assessment is subjective. One psychologist may see the syndrome, another — real trauma. There are no objective biomarkers or MRI scans. Moreover, the charge of "brainwashing" can be used as a weapon against truly受损 mothers and fathers. The abuser says in court: "It's not me who beat my wife, it's her who caused the child's Parental Alienation Syndrome."

Therefore, courts approach the expert assessment cautiously. It is an important but not the only evidence. A combination is needed: witness testimony, audio-visual recordings, conclusions from child protection agencies.

Who conducts the expert assessment and how much does it cost

The expert assessment is ordered by the court. By the request of one of the parties. It can be conducted by state expert institutions (for example, the Center for Judicial Expertise named after Serbsky) or private organizations with a license. The cost in Russia is from 50 to 300 thousand rubles depending on complexity, number of interviewed, and region. The term is from 1 to 6 months.

The party ordering the expert assessment pays. More often than not, the father, as he is interested in proving the brainwashing. If the court orders the expert assessment on its own initiative, the payment may be from the budget (rarely) or divided between the parties.

An important nuance: the expert must have a specialization specifically in family disputes and the Parental Alienation Syndrome. A regular child psychiatrist may not know the methods. Therefore, before filing a request, study the expert's resume, ask him if he has conducted such expert assessments before, how many there were, and whether there was a court precedent.

How to prepare for the expert assessment as a father

If you believe that your child is being brainwashed, act proactively. Gather evidence before going to court. Record conversations with the mother where she threatens to brainwash the child on a tape recorder (where the law allows). Save correspondence in messengers. Record cases where the mother prevented communication without a reason.

Hire a lawyer specializing in PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). He will help you draft a competent application for the appointment of an expert assessment and suggest a specific expert organization he trusts.

The most important thing is not to provoke yourself. If the child is rude, shouts, hits during a meeting — do not respond with aggression. Record it on camera. Calmly leave if the situation gets out of control. Your task is to show the expert that you are not dangerous, that you have no cruelty. And provocations by the mother will only confirm that the brainwashing exists.

Remember: the expert assessment is a stress for the child. The child may lie to the expert, may cry, may accuse you. Do not pressure. Trust the professionals.

What can be done if the expert assessment shows brainwashing

The gold standard for treating the Parental Alienation Syndrome is changing the child's place of residence to the alienated parent and temporarily limiting communication with the alienating. Yes, paradoxically: to return the child's ability to love both parents, he needs to be taken away from the one who brainwashed.

Parallel to this, family therapy is appointed: the psychologist works with the child, with both parents separately, and then together. The goal is to destroy false beliefs, restore a healthy attachment. Therapy can last a year and longer.

In Russia, courts rarely go to such a radical measure as transferring the child to the alienated parent. Usually, forced visits to a psychologist and obligations to "not hinder communication" are appointed. But if the brainwashing is proven and is severe (the child has not seen the father for a year, the mother has changed the child's surname, hides the place of residence), transfer of guardianship is possible. There is such practice, but it is rare.

Abroad, it is stricter. In the US, Israel, Brazil, the alienating parent may be deprived of guardianship, sentenced to prison (for contempt of court) or sent to a rehabilitation program. There are also precedents in Europe, although less frequently.

Can the expert assessment be appealed

Yes. The expert's conclusion is not the last word. The judge evaluates it on an equal footing with other evidence. If you believe that the expert assessment was carried out poorly (the expert was interested, used incorrect methods, did not take into account facts of real abuse), file a request for a re-assessment. In another commission.

If the court refuses to order a re-assessment, appeal the decision in an appeal, indicating violations. You can also invite an independent expert for a review of the conclusion. This is not a substitute for an expert assessment, but the court may consider his opinion as a consultation.

It is important: it is difficult to appeal an expert assessment if it was conducted in a state institution with a long-standing reputation. It is easier to appeal a private expert assessment, especially if you find violations of the format.

The future of the expert assessment for Parental Alienation Syndrome

Interest in PAS is growing. In 2026, a bill is being prepared in Russia to include the concept of "psychological violence through alienation" in the Family Code. If adopted, the expert assessment for the Parental Alienation Syndrome will become mandatory in cases involving child disputes. This will reduce the number of judicial errors and force manipulators to answer.

Also, computer methods for analyzing the child's speech for memorized phrases and emotional coloring are being developed. It is possible that in a couple of years we will see AI assistants for experts who will accurately indicate signs of brainwashing.

But the main thing will remain unchanged: the expert assessment is a tool, not a verdict. In the hands of an honest expert, it protects children from manipulation. In the hands of an biased one — it may destroy a life. Therefore, you need to choose a specialist as carefully as a surgeon. And remember: behind each conclusion is a living child who wants to love both mom and dad. Even if he says the opposite now.
© library.tz

Permanent link to this publication: